Chances are, if you are in a committed relationship you are or were first engaged. I used to call it in gagged, as in unable to speak. What should be true is just the opposite. Un-gagged. The freedom and pleasure of having someone to speak with at any given moment for any given reason.
I believe that many who marry fail to stay engaged. Just the word implies action and effort. Work. Those who are engaged don’t think of it as effort or work, but as something akin to bliss and delight and pleasure. Statistics show they get over that.
It is easier to keep up then to catch up.